Healing Shame

Joe Stewart

Sunday, June 23, 2024

Summer Baggage

Shame

Sunday Morning

Healing Shame

We all face insecurity that is based in the shame that came with original sin. That shame causes us to “sew leaves” to cover ourselves and hide what we are ashamed about. God wants us to walk in who He says we are.

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First Baptist Church Seminole Tx

202 SW Ave B, Seminole, TX 79360, USA

Sunday 5:00 AM

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Overcoming Shame

Read Plan

Point #1 Your Needs Were Meant to be Fulfilled by God

Genesis 1:27 NIV

So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.

God provides basic needs:
Dignity
Security
Intimacy
Legitimacy

We are most joyful when we are most vulnerable and connected.

I cannot heal myself by myself until I surrender myself to become my new self.

Genesis 2:25 NIV

Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

Point #2 Shame is Downloaded and Makes us Hide

Genesis 3:1-5 NIV

Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the gardenbut God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’ ”“You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman.“For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

If Satan can isolate us - He can influence us.

Rather than talking with God Eve talks about God.

Genesis 3:6-7 NIV

When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.

Guilt says you did something bad. Shame says you are bad.

Shame is the deep sense that you are inherently flawed,
unacceptable, and unworthy of love because of something you’ve
done, something done to you, or something associated with you.

Shame says I am defective, damaged. I am not enough. I don’t have what it takes. I should be better. I’m not worth love. I do not have what it takes to
navigate this moment or circumstance. I am less than and inadequate.

Hiding is the natural response to shame.

Shame disrupts their relationship with each other, with God,
and with themselves. Joy is gone. Creativity craters. Goodness is
hidden. There is no shalom in the home. Flourishing flounders. They
blame God and each other. We hide in the everyday comings and
goings of life. We hide from everyone, not least being ourselves, in
every imaginable way. Secrecy disrupts intimacy.

Genesis 3:8 NIV

Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORD God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the LORD God among the trees of the garden.

Hiding in Shame impacts us in 3 ways:

1. Hopeless Perfectionism.

2. Harsh Criticism

3. Self-Sabotage

Point #3 - A New Identity Creates a New Reality and a New Vulnerability

Three Steps to Remove Shame:

1. You need to have your story heard. Speak your shame.

2. You need to have shame off of you not shame on you.

3. You need to be restored to loving community.

Genesis 3:9 NIV

But the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you?”

I’m not what others say I am. I am not who I think I am.
I am not what someone else did to me. I am who Christ says I
am. I am what Jesus declared over me.

Luke 8:40-48 NIV

Now when Jesus returned, a crowd welcomed him, for they were all expecting him.Then a man named Jairus, a synagogue leader, came and fell at Jesus’ feet, pleading with him to come to his housebecause his only daughter, a girl of about twelve, was dying. As Jesus was on his way, the crowds almost crushed him.And a woman was there who had been subject to bleeding for twelve years, but no one could heal her.She came up behind him and touched the edge of his cloak, and immediately her bleeding stopped.“Who touched me?” Jesus asked. When they all denied it, Peter said, “Master, the people are crowding and pressing against you.”But Jesus said, “Someone touched me; I know that power has gone out from me.”Then the woman, seeing that she could not go unnoticed, came trembling and fell at his feet. In the presence of all the people, she told why she had touched him and how she had been instantly healed.Then he said to her, “Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace.”

God comes to find you. He doesn’t walk away. He doesn’t
accuse but with urgency in his step and His voice longs to connect.

He questions and queries because He knows the only way to tame
things is to name things.

You must come out of the shadows and turn toward the thing that most terrifies you.

You must talk to God not about God.

You talk with others in honest vulnerability.

Hebrews 12:2 NIV

fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.